My biggest pet peeve about the wedding industry is that it’s just a gigantic mess of vendors all thrusting their wares at brides- and grooms-to-be using the ever-popular tactic of fear mongering.
What do you mean you haven’t thought about chair covers? But it just won’t be the same if you don’t have live butterflies glued to your bouquet! I can’t believe you’re not writing your own love song (thanks James) – is your relationship so indistinct that someone else’s words and melodies can adequately describe it?
For the most part, I’ve done well at generally shoving those things aside as frivolous and unnecessary and keeping my attention focused on things I feel are far more likely to make or break a great party (and how much of it’s remembered): Food, Liquor, Photography.
However, something else has just come up from nowhere and blindsided me with its apparent importance: Music.
The plan so far is to have a late afternoon wedding and evening reception, complete with dancing into the night. Of course music is necessary. We naievely figured we could simply create our own playlist, and plug either an iPod or laptop into the venue’s AV system (the planned location has one) and let ‘er rip.
But after doing some reading, I’m now not so sure.
Every Source I’ve Consulted has made mention of the fact that music is vital to any successful wedding reception. The list of adjectives to describe such is alarming: crucial, critical, necessary, complicated, and “best left to the professionals.”
Ok, colour me frightened.
So, gentle readers, it’s now your turn to smack me firmly into reality, either with a good shaking and the knowledge that there is no way in hell I should entrust my music to anyone but a professional, or ample reassurances that asking a friend to man the iTunes Party Shuffle feature is more than adequate. We plan on having a fairly swanky affair, the music will generally be jazz standards and the like, and now I’m concerned that the do-it-myself-DJ solution will detract from, rather than add to, the atmosphere.
In the meantime, I’ll be thinking up meaningful phrases for my own custom love song, to add to the mix.