Comments on: Splat

By: WorldWideWaterCooler

WorldWideWaterCooler — Wed, 23 Nov 2005 20:09:29 +0000

[...] be different…” So me, being the naieve sap I am, replied to all that with my “this is now more than friendship for me” message. Which led to a hearty [...]

By: Darren

Darren — Thu, 17 Nov 2005 00:17:25 +0000

Bummer on the response, but strong work for laying it on the line. It’s hard to do, and few people are willing to do it. I don’t have much relationship advice, but when my friends ask, I always tell them the same thing:

Carpe girlum

In a, you know, strictly legal, non-creepy fashion.

By: Sue

Sue — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 23:48:56 +0000

The man is an ass.

To quote Moulin Rouge:

Thank you for curing me of my ridiculous obsession with loooove.

By: Mel

Mel — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 20:24:51 +0000

Honesty is always the best policy, I think. Good for you for having the guts

By: -j.

-j. — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 17:20:38 +0000

*offers a hug as well*

Regardless (no ir-!) of how it turned out, I’m proud of you for saying something, and I hope you are too. It was very brave, and it sure beats the hell out of the neverending pins-and-needles if you HADN’T said anything.

I, too, am confident you’ll be ok (and in time, much more than ok)…looks like you’ve got lots of support in the meantime!

By: peanut

peanut — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 17:04:20 +0000

*hug* lovelovelove you

By: TODD

TODD — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 16:27:35 +0000

Hi Jen, I just found this! It has the concert we went too!

http://www.pearljamlive.com/

ps. sorry to hear about that guy.. i think that sucks when that happens..

By: April

April — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 14:56:36 +0000

I know where you are coming from. I laid it all on the line once too. It turned out that he didn’t feel the same way but we are still friends and in fact are closer than ever now that all the skeletons are out of the closet and out in the open so to speak. If the friendship is strong enough, it can manouver around the elephant. Hang in there!

By: bree

bree — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 09:03:02 +0000

I’ve been on both sides of that problem. When I’ve been the one who just wanted friendship, I typically did know that the other person hoped for more. Usually if I let the line between friendship and flirtation blur too much it was because I was attracted to them to some degree, but I resisted going for it for other reasons, whether because I was already in a relationship or I just didn’t think it would work out in the end.

In my experience, you don’t lead someone else on if there’s zero feeling there. It happens when you’re confused about your own wants and feelings.

I really empathize with you on this one, and I hope it all works out. Talking about it may or may not disperse the elephant in the room … sometimes only time apart and space to move on can do that … but at least you tried. Best of luck.

By: peechie

peechie — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 08:12:36 +0000

I’m trying not to be all angry and negative, but without getting into details, it was clear from his response that he wasn’t being a good friend to me by leading me on, and that he can’t quite let that behaviour go either.

So while I’m slowly uncrumpling my heart over here, I’m confident that I’ll be ok, and am better off with some distance for now.