arguing on the internet…

… is like competing in the special olympics. No matter who wins, you’re still retarded. That’s not a really nice sentiment, and I have the utmost respect for anyone who’s living with a disability of any kind – but it sortof fits.

I was reading the weblog of this girl the other day, and after that entry, I posted a comment that went something like this:

“Everyone has family issues, some stronger than others – but I find it incredibly sad that in these troubled times you can’t even find peace at home. Or perhaps nailpolish is more important in your world.” Not that I’m out protesting – but I do value peaceful resolutions.

The nailpolish thing was a bit scathing I know, but nothing out of the ordinary for anyone who knows me and my temperment. As I was going through my usual pack of weblog reading again, I came across this lovely gem – and found my earlier comment had been erased.

Not that I really care what the internet world thinks of me – but I just think it’s really silly to post a weblog, have comments enabled, and then get upset if anyone says anything controversial in them. Isn’t that sortof the whole point of the weblog phenomenon? Dialogue?

And just to be clear – I welcome any and all controversy here. Absolutely no comments will be erased. That’s what free speech is all about.

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9 thoughts on “arguing on the internet…

  1. andrea

    hey, i entirely agree with u, and i see eye to eye on the nail polish issue.

    just that you’re more outspoken and said something, i’ve been meaning to for days, because really, i *do* care about what she wears on a daily basis.

  2. devon

    reow, donna.. πŸ™‚

    i believe that whining about pretty much anything on your blog is allowable.. and i don’t believe that someone’s blog is an accurate description of who they are. i mean.. look at my blog, for example. i’m certainly a hell of a lot more fun and intelligent than i make myself out to be.. my blog is just an outlet for the stuff that i need to get off my chest.

    *everyone* bitches about shit on their blogs. point me in the direction of someone that doesn’t, and i’ll make you some cookies.

    that’s not to say that i don’t think that naomi should move out or that i think it was right of her to delete jen’s comments.. censorship is stupid, as is staying in a situation that you *can* fix..

    but hey.. no one asked me. πŸ˜‰

  3. Donna

    So don’t be traditional. You live in BC, not asia. Therefore, you have the power to leave whenever you want. You are free and over the age of legal majority, therefore they can’t stop you.

    I’m tired of whiny little brats who think that the world is conspiring against them when, in reality, they should just take care of their problems rather than bitching about them.

    What is it to me? Not a thing, except that Jen linked to it, I followed it, and by reading what was linked to, I got an opinion. I’ll be damned if I can keep my opinions to myself. πŸ™‚

  4. harp

    I don’t know either of you two, but I grew up in an asian family and…well, I just left. Packed up and went, there’s bits I liked and didn’t like, but there’s no reason things can’t go your way…family love you but eventually understand, and if they don’t it’s their loss.

    A lot more is in your hands than you can imagine, life is there for the taking. Not my business, but hey, there’s two cents there for the taking.

  5. Naomi

    It’s a little bit different in the asian culture. It’s not like the caucasian culture where kids are expected to move out once they can start supporting themselves. In asian families children aren’t supposed to move out until they get married, especially the females.. at least its that way in traditional families.

    I don’t know why you’re being so snippy towards me anyways. I don’t know you, you don’t know me, I’m sure you’re a nice person in real life, as am I. I’m glad you got out of your abusive situation, but it’s not always so easy for everyone the way it was for you. I don’t expect your tears or anything or to feel sorry for me.

    I’m just trying to figure out why my family and myself is of such interest to you. Anyways, I’m done here so if you want to talk to me email and talk to me personally.

    P.S. You really don’t have to be so rude to everyone.

  6. Donna

    Naomi — sweetie, if you’re being abused by your parents, you move out. You do something about it. You don’t whine about things that you could change if it was REALLY a problem.

    I was emotionally abused by my mothers husband throuought my teenage years. I graduated high school a semester early, and got the fuck outta dodge. Hell, I even went to Oregon for 6 months because they were willing to help me get away from my Evil Step-father.

    Yeah, he was a fucko, but so what? When you’re in a bad situation, you get yourself out of it. This is why I said I hoped that you were only 15 or 16, because at least then you don’t have so much of an excuse, it’s harder to support yourself at that age. But at 20? Cry me a river.

    And if some stranger on the internet can make you cry, you *really* need to lighten up a little. Or grow up a little. One or the other.

  7. Naomi

    I just wanted to clarify the reason I deleted you posts. Every since I can remember I have been abused by my parents, both physically and emotionally. I created my blog as a space to rant about my daily life and things that are happening to me. The fights that I have with my parents occur daily. I rarely post about them.

    From highschool, the abuse ranged from me not getting an A in a class and getting a B instead, or me not being able to do one thing or another. It’s all about saving “face” in my family.

    So when I got into the argument with my mother that day (one of many), I decided to post about it, which I rarely due as I don’t like to air my dirty laundry on the internet. When you posted that comment about me caring more about nailpolish than world issues, I was honestly outraged. How can you judge me based on a 2 paragraph post that I put up each day?

    So what if I write about nailpolish or cooking dinner. There is more substance to my life than what you read about. I just choose not to write about it. I am also not a 15 year old girl that is trying to make the “rest” of you look bad. I’m turning 20 this year and I’m going to SFU and majoring in Communications & Business.

    There is much more to me that you don’t know, so please don’t judge me by my blog. I could easly assume that you are a bitch, but I’m not. For you see, I don’t jump to conclusions. I could also assume that Donna is a bitch also, but I’m not.

    So yes.. the post you made was VERY hurtful to the extent that it made me cry because I was thinking about my parent’s abusive past with me. I don’t think I was wrong to delete it, as I didn’t want it on my site as a reminder. I do believe in freedom of speech, but I also believe in freedom of choice.

  8. Donna

    peechie, you’re such a bitch! πŸ™‚

    er. wait. that’s not controversial, that’s a compliment… πŸ™‚

    But yeah, I went and read this girls blog a bit and … well, it’s a haircut blog. yeah, so I fought with my mom today. and made dinner. and bought nailpolish. big fucking woo. Okay, some of my posts are like that (like the most recent one) but ALL of hers are the same…

    I hate blogs like that. they make the rest of us look bad.

    I really really hope she’s only about 15 or 16. Because if so, then you can pretty much understand why she writes that stuff.

    If she’s any older than that… she needs to get a life. πŸ™‚

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